To transition or not transition, is that the question?

 Over at Novagirl Felix Conrad reflects on the way crossdreamers (and by implication a lot of transgender and nonbinary people) get stuck in the dilemma: Should they transition or should they not transition?

After many weeks away, I visited the crossdreamer forum and was reminded why it’s the best community for transgender people like me.

I was reminded by a member who expressed the realisation which all intelligent crossdreamers come to: that crossdreaming and late-onset transsexualism leads to an impossible paradox…

• It is impossible that transition will solve my gender dysphoria.
• It is impossible to stop wanting to transition.

Which really translates into the riddle in its purest form…

• You must not transition.
• You must transition.

This unsolvable riddle is a classic dilemma of reason versus passion.

In the article Conrad argues that we should avoid the two obvious pitfalls here: blind acceptance of the idea at all trans people should transition and its polar opposite: blind rejection.