Yul Brynner as a Woman

 The sexy Hollywood star Yul Brynner once played the role of a female cabaret singer, a very attractive one, in fact. 

The photo is of Yul Brynner (to the left) and Roman Polanski.

More over at Crossdream Life (including clip from the movie.)

The six stages of gender denial

Based on a post by Samantha over at CDL: The six stages of trans denial:

1. "I am comfortably cis."
2. “I sometimes like presenting as female - it's weird, I don't know why I do it, but that's it”
3. “I would actually do this all the time if I could”
4. “I know I would rather be female, but I am not trans”
5. “I think I am trans and I should probably do something about it”
6. “I AM trans and I AM going to do something about it”

If you use trans as an umbrella term for all shades of gender variance, these stages of yours may not fit all, but it sure makes sense to many!

More here!

Does anyone know the significance of having a female-typical digit ratio, or is that just pseudoscience?

 Andonis Longos asks over at CDL:

"I had always assumed that everyone had fingers like mine, that the index was always longer than the ring finger, and had no idea that many people (supposedly most men) have fingers of the opposite length. So I then realized that I basically have a "female-typical" finger-length. Since some seem to claim that this corresponds with pre-natal hormones, I was wondering if anyone could comment on this or if it is just pseudoscience."

Some answers about finger ratios and being transgender here!

Harry Styles in a Dress

 

US Vogue has finally put a man on its cover. It is British actor, model and pop star, Harry Styles in a dress.

Trans Express has more about Harry Styles' gender queer approach to life.

Being Transgender is a process that is being resolved in the psyche.

 Robben Wendy writes over at Crossdream Life:

"We may or may not be genetically Transgender, but I believe we can all say our transitions start at birth. It is influenced by social interaction and learning, and is an expression of cognitive development that is mental, physical and spiritual. 

"I feel the worst thing someone can try to do is to correct the behavior. Being Transgender is a process that is being resolved in the psyche. It is a process in which association to gender is non binary, and our cognitive development establishes preferences, that are non binary...

"For me letting go of a whole social milieu whereby everyone had to think how others wanted them to think, only began my liberation. From what I could perceive as my cross dressing. To become a Transgender woman who is not only seen but heard, to be the complete person of my own doing. Like a thought process that chains and wraps around our whole lives, we are Transgender because it makes sense, it relates to our sensibilities, and helps us to express our feelings and emotions. 

"Gender variance is an intelligence. It a way of seeing that without it we will have nobody and live alone. It is a truth behind anima and animus, that gender variance helps us to see the world we live in inclusively, so that we are not bidden by guilt and shame which keeps us hiding in depression."

More here!

Madeleine is coming out to herself and others and this is what she says

"Being my real self took a backseat in my 20s and 30s because of various relationships. I have had my own place for 11 years now and my true self is so desperate to get through and be heard it's tearing my emotions apart constantly on a day-to-day basis. I think I've cried more times in the last month than I have in my entire life and I am a serious wimp that never stops crying. 😂 

I was given an analogy today about Madeleine being locked in prison. She has finally been set free but she is sad for all the wasted years where she has been told to hide in the shadows. I can't fault this logic. I'm having trouble writing this through the tears. I'm just so so overwhelmed with happiness at finally realising what has been holding me back on my life. As I've previously said elsewhere I've had 4 years of anxiety and panic attacks, chest pains, hospital visits etc. etc. Well, the penny finally dropped when I spoke to my old therapist last week. There's nothing wrong with me, I've just been too scared to be me."

Read the whole story over at CDL.