Tuesday, March 28, 2017

The Identity-Defense Model for Transgender Experiences


"How did I not know about this until now?" Skyler asks over at Crossdream Life:

"I had read Jack's blog about [Dr. Jaimie Veale's] research before but did not notice her concept of Identity-Defense. Essentially, the idea is that how one ends up expressing their gender is a combination of one's gender identity tempered or modified by the application (or not) of defense mechanisms.

An individual may or may not attempt to employ defense mechanisms based on their environment and personality; and even if they do attempt to employ them, they may have varying levels of success, again based on things like personality.

Individuals who employ defense mechanisms do so to avoid facing their own gender variance and therefore tend to face them later in life than individuals who do not employ defense mechanisms.

Veale also presents a model to explain how these two different strategies correlate to sexual orientation. In fact, an interesting part of her model is that how the individual deals with their gender variance influences their sexual orientation rather than the other way around."


Monday, March 27, 2017

Debunking the Gaydar Myth


An article by William Cox on new research showing that people's abilities to identify gay men and women are highly overrated, has led to an interesting discussion over at Crossdream Life.

As one member points out:

"I lost my belief in my own gaydar when the day I actually had it confirmed! A gay male friend of mine and I had a good dinner in a restaurant, and I was so proud when I noted that our waiter was gay. My gay friend had not noticed. Then it struck me: I did not actually know that the waiter was gay. I only supposed so because of the way he looked and presented himself.

"Moreover, given that some 1 to 5 percent of the population is believed to be gay, there should at least be five more gay men in that restaurant, and I hadn't noticed any of them. In fact, I hadn't know that my gay friend was gay before he told me so."

Another argues that the gaydar theory mixes up gender expression with sexual orientation. These are two separate issues.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

When transgender feelings come and go


Here's an interesting question asked over at Crossdream Life: "Does the Intensity of Your Crossdreaming Come and Go? Do You Know Why?"

MeganC gave this answer:

"Why? I think it has to do with how our minds are trying to balance both sides, that dichotomy is bound to have strong moments for either. We're raised and fighting as one over the other. So as barriers are broken, we get a strong surge of feeling our internal selves, but then the real world and society brings or tempers all of that once more down to previous levels."


Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Trans or not? Need help figuring it out?


Am I trans? Does it matter if I am? How can I know? Why don't I know!!? Is not knowing a sign I really am not?  If I am, should I transition? Will I regret it? What if I do? Will I lose everything? Does that matter? What am I so afraid of? Is being trans why I get so depressed, and have panic attacks? Is it why I am so self destructive? Is this all in my imagination? Am I too old for it to work? Will I ever find true love? Am I just in some long fugue state? How can I figure all this out?

These and many other questions are being asked at Crossdream Life, and the discussion is enlightenling, interesting and including. Check it out!

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Japanese anime with a gender twist


If you are into anime (Japanese style) animated movies and gender transgressions, you might want to follow this discussion over at Crossdream Life.

Members discuss movies and comics where the protagonist is transformed into the other sex. Kämpfer, which tells the story of high school student Nasuro Seno who is changed into a female warrior, is dismissed as sexist and repetitive by some.

As one puts it:  

"I just got bored. That said, I recently just started a different anime that seems to be going in the opposite direction.  It, like Kampfer, is about magical girls who are forced to fight one another.  And, while the Main character of this show is a cis-female, there is also a character in it (who plays a fairly major role) who is normally male and has to become a girl when using her powers. It is called 'Magical Girl Raising Project,'"

Jen adds some really interesting reflections on the role of gender transgressions and asexuality in Japanese culture.



Sunday, March 19, 2017

The Crossdreamer Facebook Page Reaches 4000 Likes


The Crossdreamer Facebook page presents crossdreamer and transgender news and keeps its followers in touch with crossdreamer sites and forums.

Today the page broke through the 4000 likes ceiling!

You can follow the crossdreamer community on facebook here!


New Threads on Crossdream Life

Books to Read!