Thursday, April 27, 2017

Norwegian researchers give an excellent rebuttal of anti-transgender attacks

The Norwegian site Blazer Fanzine has published an article by  five Norwegian researchers giving a rebuttal of  the major arguments made by transphobic radical feminists (TERFs) and right wing extremists.

Crossdream Life provides an unoffical English language translation of the piece.

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Am I trans or not?

Nyxus writes over at the crossdreaming subreddit:

"I'm not entirely sure if this is the right subreddit, but I at least feel it fits best here? I really just don't know if I am trans or not. I am (very) into the thought of being a woman (girl?) on a sexual level, but beyond that, I just don't know.

Anytime I think about my life, if I were a woman instead, I only think of enjoying it as much, or more. That said I am not unhappy being a man at all. To the point where I think I'd enjoy being a man the rest of my life, more than I would enjoy being a trans woman (I'm not sure if that's being insensitive or bigoted, but I really hope what I'm trying to say is clear at least)....

I just don't know how I should feel about any of this. I'd say that I identify as cis straight, but at the same time I have not just imagined, but fantasized at being a woman for several years, and I can't help put wonder if I'm just ignoring what some part of my psyche is very clearly saying."

Monday, April 24, 2017

What was your first crossdream and how did you respond?

The crossdreamer awakening happens at different times for different people. Some seem to have always associated themselves with "the opposite gender"; some have childhood fantasies of changing sex, while others find out at a later time.

Over at Crossdream Life Sofie asks members of the forum about when they realized they were different.

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Camille Paglia should just shut up about transgender topics

Over at CDL Bobbi draws attention to a video where Camille Paglia dismisses the suffering of many transgender people.  She identifies "transgenderism" as a mark of a civilization deep into decadence, nearing collapse.

Bobbi writes:

"I actually agree with Camille Paglia on many topics but it became clear listening to this video that she has been persuaded on the overblown risks of chemical puberty intervention and tends to down-play the very real risks (i.e. suicide) of not taking trans-kids seriously and then helping them as necessary."

The following discussion includes some very interesting observations about gender variance, including the observation that Paglia herself is most likely a crossdreamer.

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

The similarities between the historical attacks on homosexuals and the current persecution of transgender people

In a debate over at Crossdream Life several point to the similarities between the earlier attacks on homosexual people and the recent bathroom law debacle.

Both lines of attack seem to contain the same elements:
  • Homosexuality and trans identities are signs of character flaws which can be overcome.
  • Homosexuality and trans identities can therefore be "healed" using "conversion therapy".
  • Homosexual and transgender people are trying to seduce others (especially women and children) to their wicked ways.
  • Homosexual and transgender people are sexual perverts.
  • Homosexuals and transgender people must be disciplined through social exclusion (banned from occupations and bathrooms).
Given that most reasonable people these days know that none of this is true for gay and lesbian people, you should think they would hesitate before using the exact same arguments against trans people. But then again, phobias of this kind are not logical. They are driven by an irrational fear of that which does not adhere to the social conformity of a particular community, and now they want to force everyone to follow their rules.

Read more about this over at Crossdream Life.

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Some Native Americans Acknowledged Five Genders

In spite of what some people think, not all cultures stick to two as the total number of genders.

Different Native American tribes have, for instance, throughout history allowed for what some call two-spirited, people who cross the boundaries between male and female in different ways.

As Micah points out over at CDL:

"People were valued for how they contributed to the tribe, rather than for their masculinity or femininity. Parents didn’t assign gender roles to children — even children’s clothing was gender neutral."

Saturday, April 8, 2017

Songs about crossing gender boundaries

Over at Crossdream Life members started collecting songs that are about crossdreaming and crossing gender boundaries.

It turns out that there are a lot of them, including songs by well known artists like Manic Street Preachers, James, Morrissey, Eminem, Garbage, Lou Reed, and Blur.

Please add more if you know some!

Friday, April 7, 2017

Crossdream Life Arranges an Online Chatroom Event on April 8

Here's your chance to meet other gender variant people and talk about crossdreaming, crossdressing, queer and transgender issues.

Crossdream Life arranges a chat room event on Saturday April 8 at 4 p.m. American East Coast time/ 9 p.m. UK time. (For other time zones see this map).

All you have to do is to sign up as a member of Crossdream Life and click on the home page Chatroom link. The rest is self-explanatory.

By the way: You may also talk to people in the chat room at other times.

More here!

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Forced gender reassignment movie The Assignment opens at theaters

The controversial  movie The Assignment  has opened at theaters in the US. The film is directed by Walter Hill and stars Michelle Rodriguez and Sigourney Weaver. 

Michelle Rodriguez plays a hit man who is seeking revenge after being involuntarily subjected to gender reassignment surgery by Dr. Rachel Kay (Weaver).

The movie, which is based on a comic book, has been criticized by the trans community. The director, however, insists that it has nothing to do with transgender people, as the main character is cis.

You can read all about the movie over at Crossdream Life:

Transgender: Creating an online persona for your other side

Over at reddit/crossdreaming magikateball asks: " Anyone else indulge their other side by creating alternate online identities in their gender of choice?"

"A few years ago when I started trying to explore my feminine side I decided to create a separate online persona to indulge my fem side.

I created a new Google account, as well as any other online site, except FB, with no ties or connections to the male persona. I created an alternate, fem name for myself (Kate). I identify on these sites as "female".

It's really revealing in many ways. Create a new YouTube account as "female" and the default feed is very different from the default male feed. I get ads for cosmetics and hair products. Even the news on Google news is skewed from the "male" variant. More articles about women's rights issues, more stories about female celebrities, etc."

Discussion here.

Monday, April 3, 2017

Crossdressing, cause and effect.

Here is a clever question from the Crossdream Life archives:

Natacha asked:  "I wonder what is the direction of causality in crossdressing?

1. The  "cultural" explanation

One way to look at it could be:
I have an inner femininity -> Culture says that femininity is expressed by women  -> To express myself outwardly as feminine you need to dress in female clothing  -> I want to dress up in "female" clothing

In this case, the desire to crossdress is a projection of femininity on femaleness. You could say it is a cultural construct. Crossdressing (in my case) is primarily a question of expressing myself in a particular way.

2. The "innate" explanation

Another way to look at it could be:

I have an inner femaleness  -> Somehow, female clothing is innately connected to experiencing femaleness  -> To experience my femaleness I must dress up in female clothing

In this case. wearing female clothing is directly linked to experiencing some degree of femaleness.

Click here for some of the answers provided by CDL members.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Love and respect translates into physical attraction after transition

People -- or at least women -- are much more sexually flexible than most people think.

Amanda Crose argues  that she finds her partner's look after transitioning from man to woman to be "beautiful in the way I have always been able to find other women beautiful, but the attraction is deeper since we have an emotional connection as well."

She argues that the fact that she loves her and cares about her deeply translates into physical attraction.

Read more!

Friday, March 31, 2017

On Russian hypermasculinity and transphobia

Transphobia and attacks on gender variance is often driven by caricature ideals of masculinity and misogyny. We see this in the extreme right in Europe and the US and we see the in the forces that powers Russian totalitarianism.

Over at Crossdream Life Barbara has presented a translation of Russian blogger Irina Zhabitskaya's post on Russian hypermasculinity.

"Be a man, endure pain, play football, make a slingshot, fight, defend your point of view, watch movies about war and about cops, get as gift a pneumatic gun, drive a bike, carry a penknife, break your knees, climb up a tree, throw a punch in the someone's teeth, go to the judo section, go to college, make a career, cut grease with a father's knife, drink vodka, get drunk, eat red-beat soup, serve in the military, go to the gym, get a post, get bonuses, get the best woman, make her know her place, become a father, a top manager, raise a son, grow a hairy belly, buy a big brutal jeep, buy an apartment, put up an iron door, put everyone in their place, establish discipline between subordinates, build a country house, buy a traumatic gun, bear the responsibility, deserve the approval of father, hate the weak, hate renegades, you are the man... Why all this is needed, no one understands, but to live with this inferiority complex all his life, and then impose it on his son is a norm for Russia.

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