tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-71769305568944666342024-03-13T12:06:51.232-07:00THE CROSSDREAMER PORTALJack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comBlogger191125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-10926018386142685292024-03-08T05:00:00.000-08:002024-03-08T05:00:48.666-08:00Incels, transcels and transmaxxing and what this is it all about<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRcIeezZmEknQMKwL-AUKuOcWcYlkumXfaXoWeFnklDMUCzqwAh2nXRRJ9w5tiUDiDH00s5nnbGYvdqmPk-YaGW1D4k4TmeZ8NzTOMk8_2IpKkQmZJo-Hvv8ddyc08q6AE4TBTYfM-ZHNSYaME7cdZg4dTOSpfvhcPnotpWNtp8ViTG-X2GoOYnyNboEhj/s550/download.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="283" data-original-width="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRcIeezZmEknQMKwL-AUKuOcWcYlkumXfaXoWeFnklDMUCzqwAh2nXRRJ9w5tiUDiDH00s5nnbGYvdqmPk-YaGW1D4k4TmeZ8NzTOMk8_2IpKkQmZJo-Hvv8ddyc08q6AE4TBTYfM-ZHNSYaME7cdZg4dTOSpfvhcPnotpWNtp8ViTG-X2GoOYnyNboEhj/s16000/download.png" /></a></div><b><br /><br />Transmaxxing is a term from incel culture and it refers to the way som male-identifying incels decide to transition and live as women, as they think living is a woman is easier than living as a man. They also think that this will improve their love life and give them access to sex.</b><br /><p>The underlying incel world view is that the incels are failed men who cannot live up to the masculine ideals of society and who therefore never will be happy or accepted as who they are. Nor will they be able to attract women. The term incel means "involuntary celibate". </p><p>Members of the incel community are often love-shy and introverted male assigned people who have a personality or a life experience that make them feel excluded from dating and courtship. This makes them extremely lonely and it is probably the despair that follows from the idea of never being able to have a good relationship with a woman that brings them to the incel community. In the incel community their deepest fears are confirmed, and they take comfort in the fact that they are not alone.<span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p>The incel philosophy is based on the most destructive parts of the hypermasculine narrative, where success in love is seen as the end result of a brutal struggle between masculine men and where women are reduced to more or less passive objects of these men's desire. </p><p>This extremely binary view of sex and gender makes it close to impossible for them to see that both gender identities and romantic and sexual preferences among both men and women vary immensely, and that there are most likely someone for everyone; the trick is to find them. It might also help to make some effort to make women like you.</p><p>Transmaxxing is based on the belief that the life of a woman is much easier than being a man. No doubt these male assigned people meet challenges many women do not, but the real life experience of women proves that it is not easier to be a woman. Indeed, women suffer from the same oppressive hypermasculine narrative as the incels, as they will have to live with the fear of male aggression and oppression all their lives.</p><p>The transmaxxing narrative is harming the whole transgender community, as it reinforces the transphobic idea that all trans women are "fake" or "traps". Ironically, most of the MTF incels who transition are most likely gender dysphoric trans women who have absorbed so much of the hypermasculine narrative that they are unable to see themselves as the women they are. </p><p>They make use of the only option this narrative gives them: That all women are like failed men and that they, as failed men, can find happiness in the role as the oppressed. This is a deeply misogynistic approach to sex and gender.</p><p>For a deeper discussion about transmaxxing, see this CDL discussion: <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/is-transmaxxing-a-thing-t4862-s20.html">Is transmaxxing a thing?</a></p><p><br /></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-90897568457192808372024-02-02T02:00:00.000-08:002024-02-02T02:00:17.941-08:00New Spanish language web site on transgender issues<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEij5kBcZlUANBtxP5rzFvoU1zGvXTShEp12c7nJhheXCEyrNeFj9DVg89XARq4BmoezqSxknjCUFqdy0OL1X85ra8NxZBon6RGE-ceeNbbxz77g-susRZ23T3s5kVFtbu6zJESC2hRcgcRupPN4bqbfIGZwIjPHU-tLFfR9IEASKiFaaoe1ZpNfXfN4DQ2p/s752/header752.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="119" data-original-width="752" height="64" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEij5kBcZlUANBtxP5rzFvoU1zGvXTShEp12c7nJhheXCEyrNeFj9DVg89XARq4BmoezqSxknjCUFqdy0OL1X85ra8NxZBon6RGE-ceeNbbxz77g-susRZ23T3s5kVFtbu6zJESC2hRcgcRupPN4bqbfIGZwIjPHU-tLFfR9IEASKiFaaoe1ZpNfXfN4DQ2p/w400-h64/header752.png" width="400" /></a></div><p>Amilka González, a trans woman from Venezuela and Crossdreamers blogger Jack Molay from Norway are collaborating on a new web site for Spanish language content covering everything LGBTQ+. The motivation stems from the lack of good, critical, content on the mechanisms and tactics of contemporary transphobic activism in the Spanish language.</p><p>The site will publish original content, as well as translation of articles written in other languages.</p><p><a href="https://www.mundolgbtiq.com/">Visit Mundo LGBTIQ here!</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-9816505081294900702023-12-31T03:41:00.000-08:002023-12-31T03:41:44.360-08:00Dr. Jekyll and Sister Hyde<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhq6HrMXtEm1qFnbxCw7-25wb-1H-k-iY8joVafrRpDvEwlzCWsxQs9YW597o1dPlu_v0cec8YDpH9Iv1zhCfNHcuJy8FjtPzVAe42gxDpFd13PuyDSxV3Q1Gp1F3Nu7CHzZOoyJo-GAbv0BegSJLP8Y6rANojx9a3vOP9xUHkV6k_vaaB6_bLBROKU7zqy/s1440/55716034conv1.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="810" data-original-width="1440" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhq6HrMXtEm1qFnbxCw7-25wb-1H-k-iY8joVafrRpDvEwlzCWsxQs9YW597o1dPlu_v0cec8YDpH9Iv1zhCfNHcuJy8FjtPzVAe42gxDpFd13PuyDSxV3Q1Gp1F3Nu7CHzZOoyJo-GAbv0BegSJLP8Y6rANojx9a3vOP9xUHkV6k_vaaB6_bLBROKU7zqy/s16000/55716034conv1.jpg" width="550" /></a></div><p>Over at CDL Terrie Nova has made a comment <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/15-gender-bending-movies-everyone-should-see-t4781.html#p47645">on the Hammer horror movie <i>Dr. Jekyll and Sister Hyde</i></a> from 1971, where Dr. Jekyll, when drinking female hormones, is turned into a sexy woman.</p><p>Hammer movies are not very realistic, to say the least, yet it is interesting to see how a glass of female hormones can turn a man into a woman in 30 seconds, long hair and perfect make-up included. </p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/15-gender-bending-movies-everyone-should-see-t4781.html#p47572">15 Gender-Bending Movies Everyone Should See</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-57400751790867807612023-11-03T05:27:00.006-07:002023-11-03T05:27:34.083-07:00Is acephobia/aphobia, the fear of aromantic and asexual people, a real thing?<b>There is an interesting discussion about the fear and persecution of asexual and aromantic people over at Crossdream Life.</b><p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxvZE_bdRqsgLM_u02AdCt2_BeWTdm8O1_Zne6ZcXFcNzdCR5ieTUlyYJJyFLPEozTJVH8j6Gjef93Xy2j088zxo3E_goyR2TVK0gKdfrVAf7kj2alH5UnckIbg1WPiv_xD1JvZyYv1FS_eB0pkXvQqRSpvI-CBDf357PhASiOxMlsDbqZRhNPDKx0P5Zq/s1050/aromantic__1__by_pride_flags-d8zu7h4_1200x630-2996771091conv1.jpg" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="630" data-original-width="1050" height="192" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxvZE_bdRqsgLM_u02AdCt2_BeWTdm8O1_Zne6ZcXFcNzdCR5ieTUlyYJJyFLPEozTJVH8j6Gjef93Xy2j088zxo3E_goyR2TVK0gKdfrVAf7kj2alH5UnckIbg1WPiv_xD1JvZyYv1FS_eB0pkXvQqRSpvI-CBDf357PhASiOxMlsDbqZRhNPDKx0P5Zq/s320/aromantic__1__by_pride_flags-d8zu7h4_1200x630-2996771091conv1.jpg" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #01ffff;">Aromantic pride flag.</span></td></tr></tbody></table><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/asexual-and-aromantic-t4726.html">HyperLayne writes:</a></p><p></p><blockquote><p>"If crime is motivated by confused, disgusted, violent aggressive desire to "fix" or "straighten up" a person, I'd say it is a hate crime...</p><p>It is based in beliefs, that you should not have autonomy to change your social role, cannot break out from the traditionalist life script. It's a part of rigid thinking, that says you shouldn't have premarital sex, shouldn't have sex with members of the same sex, cannot change your gender role, but you have to be sinful, you have to feel shame, you have to need a priest, you have to want sex beyond wanting to have kids, you have to want to get married and you have to make babies and have to struggle with your marriage and must want to commit infidelity, and you likely will and they'll you ask forgiveness and you and your spouse will have to make sacrifices for the sake of marriage and kids, and your love will only get stronger for it... " <span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p></blockquote><blockquote><p>And you absolutely can't have love in a polyromantic partnership, that's perverted and complicated and indecent", "you only can be happy a nuclear family", which was invented barely a century ago, it's a tradition, you know. "You can't be happy weird cat lady, only a pitiable one." "The gay marriage is doomed and children will suffer."</p><p>It's a script. Most people don't spell it explicitly, with maybe exception of highly traditionalist societies, but even they might have strong taboos, they only imply and don't talk about. People don't follow parts of scripts like that equally, but others in their immediate community might, it might change from culture to culture, but some of the parts of it are shared widely across different culture.</p><p>Queer people poke holes in various parts of these scripts, they show cracks in rigid beliefs, that people have to tell themselves, when they start to feel, they were wrong for following them. They hate that they were promised "normal life" and "normal happiness" if they follow the conventions of normality. They hate when they are reminded that their sacrifices might've been in vain or completely unnecessary. That there is no guaranteed happiness."</p></blockquote><p></p><div><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/asexual-and-aromantic-t4726.html">Read the whole post and the discussion about acephobia here.</a></div>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-76743841848354491522023-06-01T03:08:00.002-07:002023-06-01T03:08:36.267-07:00There is More Than Just One Trans Narrative<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjz8ErI6mCbEelffaIB0imkAL05pm_bvQIraINT6STi6xHjMqZVDd_9wZqoOjo7quAGj4YlcMyElzgaH5Mk9QlmwLUyOOEqaO4dyLyzCJk9NHkwcNFc9Hi-2gBP3TOPZBJzcaam2G0Dqq6xSrQOzxdKSWNbrpv5O4TjQPb0tr4clIKtU--bqzqtYJmP_Q/s1024/dreaming_about_gender_31fd27a6-7569-4818-9d86-6a05a0dffeda.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="1024" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjz8ErI6mCbEelffaIB0imkAL05pm_bvQIraINT6STi6xHjMqZVDd_9wZqoOjo7quAGj4YlcMyElzgaH5Mk9QlmwLUyOOEqaO4dyLyzCJk9NHkwcNFc9Hi-2gBP3TOPZBJzcaam2G0Dqq6xSrQOzxdKSWNbrpv5O4TjQPb0tr4clIKtU--bqzqtYJmP_Q/s16000/dreaming_about_gender_31fd27a6-7569-4818-9d86-6a05a0dffeda.png" width="550" /></a><br /><b>"Am I trans enough?" "Am I really transgender?" "Is it only a fetish?" Even if the LGBTQA culture has become increasingly supportive of variance, both as regards sexuality and gender identity, the old "woman trapped in a man's body narrative" remains strong. </b><div><br /><div>For some that narrative makes perfect sense. For others it does not, or – at least – it feels only partly true.</div><div><br /></div><div>Over at Crossdream Life, Lost has gathered and presented a selection of life stories that tells us that there is more than just one transgender narrative.</div><div><br /></div><div>If you are one of those questioning your gender identity or you have close ones who do, you might find much of interest here.</div><div><br /></div><div><b><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/there-is-more-than-just-one-trans-narrative-t4528.html">Go to "There is More Than Just One Trans Narrative" on Crossdream Life. </a></b></div><div><br /></div><div><i>Image: Midjourney AI</i></div></div>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-61933737714805236332023-05-01T02:15:00.005-07:002023-05-01T02:16:23.805-07:00Selected gender discussions from Crossdream Life<p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZsriVXkpsOu8QpXxSPn4Etjar0J1D6ziBK4UxwGBBIaK3KsF1K7FSzKnxJVLsmxavA28pjf5m-ukzjHWLSFYHaA_Df1ABr7hsXDrQB_PzdsDkHZYxfx8TOQjpIr39ErCPzeorikQi4cGkkivah2Wzj_HL7SMFBE4d5kjbU_p0xLR1rpiDyi9r2cGXDg/s1024/_painting_of_cross-gender_fantasies_dd2e6571-b9fe-4fa8-83fa-4186b7d6c09d.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="1024" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZsriVXkpsOu8QpXxSPn4Etjar0J1D6ziBK4UxwGBBIaK3KsF1K7FSzKnxJVLsmxavA28pjf5m-ukzjHWLSFYHaA_Df1ABr7hsXDrQB_PzdsDkHZYxfx8TOQjpIr39ErCPzeorikQi4cGkkivah2Wzj_HL7SMFBE4d5kjbU_p0xLR1rpiDyi9r2cGXDg/s16000/_painting_of_cross-gender_fantasies_dd2e6571-b9fe-4fa8-83fa-4186b7d6c09d.png" width="550" /></a></p><p>Crossdream Life is a discussion forum for all kinds of gender variance, from cis people who break gender boundaries on the one hand to trans women and trans men on the other.</p><p>There is a lot of content over there, and it is not always easy to track down good discussions you have not read. This is why we have gathered a few discussion threads that may be of help to you right now.</p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/a-transgender-typology-and-unification-theory-t3063.html">A Transgender Typology and Unification Theory</a></h3><p>Koloa has presented a very interesting alternative approach to talk about trangender identities and lives that avoid the kind of pathologization we find in many other models.</p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/are-we-just-protecting-cis-people-and-the-binary-a-t3963.html">Are we just protecting cis people and the binary again?</a></h3><div>A discussion about the gender binary, gender identity and gender expression.</div><div><br /><span><a name='more'></a></span></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/jemimah-hemingway-and-more-t3278.html">Jemimah, the transgender Hemingway and more</a></h3><div>A complex and multifaceted discussion about sex and gender, which also includes information about the transgender side of Ernest Hemingway.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/a-kind-of-matrix-reset-t3760.html">A kind of Matrix reset, about Lana Wachowski and the latest Matrix movie</a></h3><div>On the queer and transgender subtext of the Matrix movies.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/when-mtf-crossdressers-crossdreamers-have-sex-with-t501.html">When MTF crossdressers/crossdreamers have sex with men</a></h3><div>Talking about MTF crossdressers and crossdreamers as a separate category of trans is misleading. But given that so many are locked into rather limited typologies, as given the life experience of some MTF trans people who are predominantly attracted to women, looking at the attraction to men makes sense.</div><div><br /></div><div>See also: <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/about-the-intersection-between-crossdreaming-and-a-t4320.html">About the intersection between crossdreaming and androphilia (or bisexuality)</a></div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/sissy-fetishism-repression-t3285.html">"Sissy" Fetishism & Repression</a></h3><div>The "sissy" concept is considered problematic by many, and offensive even. But there is a subgroup of gender variant people who identify this way. Moreover, fantasies of submission and feminization is found among some MTF crossdreamers and trans women.</div><div><br /></div><div>See also the debate around <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/julia-serano-on-sissy-shaming-t4136.html">Julia Serano on "sissy-shaming"</a></div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/ever-feel-like-being-outed-would-be-a-relief-t4034.html">Ever feel like being outed would be a relief?</a></h3><div> "If you were outed to the world by accident or by someone...after the initial shock and everything would it feel like a relief? "</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/the-battle-over-gender-therapy-t4147.html">The Battle over Gender Therapy</a></h3><div>On the battle over gender therapy, anti-trans activism and the medical establishment.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/in-defense-of-the-sex-binary-t4178.html">In Defense of the Sex Binary</a></h3><div>A rather intense discussion about the sex binary. Needless to say, not all participants like it.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/do-i-want-to-be-her-or-do-i-want-to-f-ck-her-t2869.html">Do I want to be her or do I want to f*ck her?</a></h3><div>This is a question that pops up both in cis lesbian and bisexual circles and among MTF crossdreamers and trans women.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/tanit-s-priests-extreme-femininity-under-the-influ-t3336.html">TANIT's priests - extreme femininity under the influence of a Female Entity</a></h3><div>Discussion about transgender people throughout history.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/from-reddit-asktransgender-autogynephilia-comes-up-t4066.html">"Autogynephilia" comes up as an issue again: thoughts?</a></h3><div>Transphobes love the "autogynephilia" theory of Ray Blanchard, for the simple reason that Blanchard himself is a transphobe. The theory has been debunked. Keep in mind that the fact that erotic crossdreaming is a thing, does not mean that Blanchard's explanation for it is the right one.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/busting-the-regret-myth-t621.html">Busting the Regret Myth</a></h3><div>"I been seeing a lot of stories recently talking about people who detransition or who regret transitioning." Yeah, but the fact is that less than 1 percent of those who transition later detranstion, and most of them do so because of social pressure.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/hormones-powerful-hormones-t4281.html">Hormones, powerful hormones</a></h3><div>On what hormone therapy can do to your mind and body.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/the-difference-between-gd-and-biid-t4285.html">The difference between GD and BIID</a></h3><div>On the difference between gender dysphoria (GD) and Body Integrity Identity disorder (BIID)</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/just-learned-about-this-term-and-learning-about-my-t3739.html">What is crossdreaming?</a></h3><div>This term is in the name of the forum, so it makes sense that members discuss crossdreaming and cross-gender fantasies.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/finding-love-as-a-transgender-person-t3002.html">Finding love as a transgender person</a></h3><div><div>"There is, understandably, a lot of fear among crossdreamers and trans people regarding losing their loved ones if they come out. Many also fear that their gender variance will make it impossible for them to find love.</div><div><br /></div><div>It is therefore important to stress that even though there are a lot of bad stories out there, there are also a lot of love stories that work out right."</div></div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/challenge-crossdreamer-moments-in-movies-and-tv-ep-t1587.html">Crossdreamer moments in movies and TV episodes</a></h3><div>"Sometimes a movie or a TV episode will have a scene that has some crossgender angle to it. I am not talking about films about transgender people, like Transamerica or The Danish Girl, but other movies or series where one of the characters end up presenting as the other gender or become the other gender."</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/a-perspective-on-autism-and-childhood-gender-strug-t3448.html">A perspective on autism and childhood gender struggles</a></h3><div>Neuratypical people are more likely to be transgender than others. Why and what does this entail?</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://crossdreamers.blogspot.com/2023/03/more-selected-discussions-from.html">More selected discussions from the Crossdream Life forum on gender variance and trans issues</a></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-50060787860171901002023-02-20T04:09:00.006-08:002023-02-20T04:09:51.506-08:00Surveys debunks the "autogynephilia" theory<p> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj9sW_MFPRoxH-Xw7fVWuhS1xW1zeE4vmV73RJfMShA9EzRBWHnyRLxBBjRo9MH81tVR7pyS0mU4NRNy3rjZhgSuHoGTmzFn3sUATCz5NhvIBN6SLuUbeMSU9rZLW5yi5x_xZgNkaiCTdT30pmG8nKQoVXoFp9V53gbEoXlkf-BfXI8pwT4QTlhpyiTCA/s550/2painting_man_woman_gender_dreams_ad90e8ff-4512-4af6-aa2f-9c3cdffb0393.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="359" data-original-width="550" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj9sW_MFPRoxH-Xw7fVWuhS1xW1zeE4vmV73RJfMShA9EzRBWHnyRLxBBjRo9MH81tVR7pyS0mU4NRNy3rjZhgSuHoGTmzFn3sUATCz5NhvIBN6SLuUbeMSU9rZLW5yi5x_xZgNkaiCTdT30pmG8nKQoVXoFp9V53gbEoXlkf-BfXI8pwT4QTlhpyiTCA/s16000/2painting_man_woman_gender_dreams_ad90e8ff-4512-4af6-aa2f-9c3cdffb0393.png" /></a></p><p><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2023/02/blanchard-debunked-surveys-show-that.html">The Crossdreamer blog presents </a>several extensive online surveys that proves beyond any doubt that the "autogynephilia" theory of Ray Blanchard is wrong. They have been carried out by bloggers and activists.</p><p>Not that you need these surveys to draw that conclusion. Peer reviewed science says the same. Still, some more nails in the coffin might be helpful.</p><p>What these surveys show is that erotic embodiment and crossgender fantasies are found in all relevant sections of the population.</p><p><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2023/02/blanchard-debunked-surveys-show-that.html">Read<b> "Blanchard debunked: Surveys show that all kinds of people experience "autogynephilia""</b></a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-7602359181389450762022-10-24T04:30:00.002-07:002022-10-24T04:30:45.616-07:00Is there an English word that captures the overall concept behind masculine and feminine?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhggbV_jL4vkwA9irFjJeYQbQza4ByUDfihqDskZozafHZy6R4fTm4alahcjjaVB9LqRTiSbZGPjmgHqcv60YVvi5osZUItQFTRkCPYy7YZigMm7TRroJlEMAJAUWGXCgiW1_9tLFzPLlA33wPaMpNSbrlF3iTA0NDvaQsEoRRvxMoUq_0K4UN4n1eCMg/s1400/1_UpbU8JggtHRe_g0Vd0kdYw.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="787" data-original-width="1400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhggbV_jL4vkwA9irFjJeYQbQza4ByUDfihqDskZozafHZy6R4fTm4alahcjjaVB9LqRTiSbZGPjmgHqcv60YVvi5osZUItQFTRkCPYy7YZigMm7TRroJlEMAJAUWGXCgiW1_9tLFzPLlA33wPaMpNSbrlF3iTA0NDvaQsEoRRvxMoUq_0K4UN4n1eCMg/s16000/1_UpbU8JggtHRe_g0Vd0kdYw.jpeg" width="550" /></a></div><br /><p>We use terms like "feminine" and "masculine" without thinking about how to define them. They are clearly associated with terms like "female" and "male", but since we find "femininity" in men and "masculinity" in women, there is clearly no one to one relationship.</p><p>Then there is the fact that what is considered "masculine" and "feminine" varies from culture to culture and from epoch to epoch.</p><p>Is there an English language term that captures the whole feminine/masculine spectrum?</p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/is-there-an-english-word-that-captures-the-overall-t4212.html">This is the topic for a discussion over at Crossdream Life. </a></p><p><i>Painting of King Louis XIV of France with red high heels. </i></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-10774311743495458282022-07-21T01:54:00.001-07:002022-08-01T01:12:25.678-07:00Is there such a thing as a "female brain"?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCtx_gDchEwvUhJZHU6fGajwVL-7HOHIlBzvVlnFMNBJuoniN6m_d1VFvpmgdr4iG6cQjA_rYBA0t_C7qGGr99MiMH3pNzsGNu9CgCg6eHKBinwdVD6uE_G0K5V6YirDkWRzV8DJuWB9QWsOayiDJyi7bnCBJmJQHbzcig3Zaqptlc2TfdSZa0SQa8hQ/s724/GettyImages-1356111096.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="483" data-original-width="724" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCtx_gDchEwvUhJZHU6fGajwVL-7HOHIlBzvVlnFMNBJuoniN6m_d1VFvpmgdr4iG6cQjA_rYBA0t_C7qGGr99MiMH3pNzsGNu9CgCg6eHKBinwdVD6uE_G0K5V6YirDkWRzV8DJuWB9QWsOayiDJyi7bnCBJmJQHbzcig3Zaqptlc2TfdSZa0SQa8hQ/s16000/GettyImages-1356111096.jpg" width="550" /></a></div><br /><p>Over at CDL there is an interesting discussion <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/on-the-sexual-dimorphism-of-the-brain-t4179.html">on the nature of the human brain.</a> Some argue that there is such a thing as a "female" brain and that trans women have such a brain. Others argue that the brain represents a complex mix of stereotypical male and female traits, so that it does not make much sense to talk about "female" and "male" brains.</p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/on-the-sexual-dimorphism-of-the-brain-t4179.html">More about this here.</a></p><p>See also: <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/in-defense-of-the-sex-binary-t4178.html">In defense of the sex binary.</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-9605348224022210542022-05-13T01:07:00.000-07:002022-05-13T01:07:19.370-07:00Women who love to feminize their husbands<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhY6ATz3nghcBP88lFFgGSfKbHoxilfanAC7YOCYHnOxyTzm4MzjG2AK3AVy1k54NSdhZX71MEAnKQipFT6Kmapiyqh6YufgTpvblGN34oYrcxUQQUSJhIt0W_OOvJ5auzzaEPc_WtwsBm4Fz5Gk9aAfRCcRAohNroLEHFMyyIz5Vij8ZaJv1BgbCjcYg/s768/0_QJ9nu3V9LB4XUFly.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="519" data-original-width="768" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhY6ATz3nghcBP88lFFgGSfKbHoxilfanAC7YOCYHnOxyTzm4MzjG2AK3AVy1k54NSdhZX71MEAnKQipFT6Kmapiyqh6YufgTpvblGN34oYrcxUQQUSJhIt0W_OOvJ5auzzaEPc_WtwsBm4Fz5Gk9aAfRCcRAohNroLEHFMyyIz5Vij8ZaJv1BgbCjcYg/s16000/0_QJ9nu3V9LB4XUFly.png" width="550" /></a></div><br /><p></p><span face="sohne, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #292929; font-size: 16px;"><a href="https://fionadobson22.medium.com/women-who-love-to-feminize-their-husbands-alice-a134a0da0a7">Fiona Dobson tells the story about wives who love to feminize their husbands over at Medium.</a> This means that feminization fantasies is not restricted to the man exploring gender expressions, but their partner too. This will probably also apply to transmasculine people and their spouses, whether they are male or female.</span><div><span face="sohne, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #292929; font-size: 16px;"><br /></span></div><div><span face="sohne, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #292929; font-size: 16px;">Alice tells Fiona about the role playing of her and her husband:</span></div><div><span face="sohne, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #292929;"><blockquote>I let him dress at home, and at night I usually insist he wears a little pink night dress. In the three years I’ve been telling him to do it, I think he’s only worn his pyjamas twice and that was when we were staying with his brother in Des Moines. You don’t really think of many people crossdressing in Des Moines.</blockquote></span></div><div><span face="sohne, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #292929;">Fiona is apparently planning a series of interviews like this one.</span></div><div><span face="sohne, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #292929;"><br /></span></div><div><span face="sohne, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #292929; font-size: 16px;"><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/women-who-love-to-feminize-their-husbands-t4109.html#p41986">Thanks to Terrie over at CDL for the link! Discussion there!</a></span></div>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-16321391824052833022022-01-29T03:33:00.000-08:002022-01-29T03:33:03.151-08:00Who are trans and who are cis?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEj9E89owLUH4v511UbAa_nNk0fqke3v878VqBP-hFnEDvwk8p4KSIRepH4mSSDb-gpmvgjM8k67qM8-pG28II2X_twvtckKWAHcF4ffcW_JoyVX_o5WtWnfC5YXBUbokAshOENxd95QWFR79BNgJTmu7rAhQSafXs0DJFnhBjNz6Jdf4xFOjtIVSk3rkQ=s724" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="483" data-original-width="724" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEj9E89owLUH4v511UbAa_nNk0fqke3v878VqBP-hFnEDvwk8p4KSIRepH4mSSDb-gpmvgjM8k67qM8-pG28II2X_twvtckKWAHcF4ffcW_JoyVX_o5WtWnfC5YXBUbokAshOENxd95QWFR79BNgJTmu7rAhQSafXs0DJFnhBjNz6Jdf4xFOjtIVSk3rkQ=s16000" width="550" /></a></div><br /><p><b>Over at CDL Carah Maise asks whether it <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/are-we-just-protecting-cis-people-and-the-binary-a-t3963.html">makes sense to include people who have a different gender <i>expression</i> (as opposed to gender <i>identity</i>) in the transgender family.</a></b></p><p>She writes:</p><p></p><blockquote>I've been around the trans world for what is becoming a very long time. I've seen things evolve and change. I’m seeing, a growing call for gender nonconformity and expression (whether for crossdressing, drag, fashion, etc) to move from just being under the trans umbrella but a call to be considered the same thing as transgender, regardless of actual gender identity/dysphoria. Beyond what we have classically seeing requiring at least an identity of not cis. Much of this comes from a very sincere place and is motivated by good. However something about this makes me feel just a little uncomfortable, probably that I've been accused and denied a trans identity by cis people. </blockquote><p>This intro leads to a lot of interesting questions:</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Are gender expression and gender identity really two completely distinct phenomena?</li><li>How do you deal with the fact that many transgender people are on a journey, where their self understanding changes?</li><li>Do we have the science needed to determine who are trans and who are not?</li><li>Who is the arbiter, given that no one else but the trans person themselves can truly know who they are?</li><li>Is being transgender a question about some kind of gender essence or is this a relative political or social term, defined by the way cis people treat trans people.</li><li>If trans is defined as the opposite of cis, and cis are seen as those who are not trans, can the term be anything but relative?</li></ul><p></p><p></p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/are-we-just-protecting-cis-people-and-the-binary-a-t3963.html">Read the whole discussion here!</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-26907773618032686612021-09-07T05:14:00.003-07:002021-09-07T05:14:59.852-07:00What makes transgender people trans?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-kKTOD4_Glcg/YSd9IhNhPUI/AAAAAAAAHrA/RMypIDBgT8ol-NmC4LDv-AAvYw9tm9XoQCLcBGAsYHQ/s724/GettyImages-1278624531.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="483" data-original-width="724" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-kKTOD4_Glcg/YSd9IhNhPUI/AAAAAAAAHrA/RMypIDBgT8ol-NmC4LDv-AAvYw9tm9XoQCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/GettyImages-1278624531.jpg" width="550" /></a></div><p><b>Crossdreamers.com has published a broad discussions about transgender identities and what makes trans people trans. </b></p><p>The jury is still out on that question, but there are ways of distinguishing sensible explanations from those driven by bigotry and prejudice. </p><p>Crossdreamers looks at the most popular theories around today.</p><p><b>Go to <a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2021/08/why-are-trans-people-trans.html">Why are trans people trans?</a></b></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-40506483979119188782021-05-06T00:49:00.004-07:002021-05-06T00:49:54.483-07:00How can you beat gender dysphoria without transitioning?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ZETV5o8SRLA/YJOfRsifo8I/AAAAAAAAHi0/lsdtIkaBKxEwRhh3Al4_mMg6GRrQlSuQwCLcBGAsYHQ/s1000/How-to-beat-gender-dysphoria%2B%25281%2529.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="603" data-original-width="1000" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ZETV5o8SRLA/YJOfRsifo8I/AAAAAAAAHi0/lsdtIkaBKxEwRhh3Al4_mMg6GRrQlSuQwCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/How-to-beat-gender-dysphoria%2B%25281%2529.jpg" width="550" /></a></div><p>There may be various reasons for why some trans people decide not to transition. Ultimately it is up to the crossdreamer or trans person themselves to decide. Whatever they decide they deserve our love and respect.</p><p>Felix Conrad has written an interesting article on how you can cope with gender dysphoria if you cannot or will not transition.</p><p>Read it all here: <a href="https://novagirl.net/how-can-you-beat-gender-dysphoria-without-transitioning/">How can you beat gender dysphoria without transitioning?</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-89663875858911750762021-04-03T06:03:00.003-07:002021-04-03T06:03:45.927-07:00On the Transgender Journey<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-dB4GvF4Kcts/YGhia7HWMYI/AAAAAAAAHdw/LgZF8QVsIYkSOlBHPszZfQoejD_getzdwCLcBGAsYHQ/s724/GettyImages-1086145112-2.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="483" data-original-width="724" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-dB4GvF4Kcts/YGhia7HWMYI/AAAAAAAAHdw/LgZF8QVsIYkSOlBHPszZfQoejD_getzdwCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/GettyImages-1086145112-2.jpg" width="550" /></a></div><div><br /></div>There is <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/a-transgender-typology-and-unification-theory-t3063-s20.html">a thread on the crossdreamer/transgender journey </a>over at Crossdream Life that may be of help too many people who struggle with their gender identity. <div><br /></div><div><b>Gender variant people go through a process of self-discovery when interacting with others. Their understanding of themselves changes as they get new words to describe themselves, and as they start exploring the hidden side of their psyche.</b><div><br /></div><div>Thrilledwfrills writes this about the journey:<br /><br /><span style="color: #2b00fe;">"1. We experience existential conflict with physiology or social role associated with assigned gender. We feel a more satisfying sense of identity with some or all parameters of the other gender, We naturally seek expression of our individual gender variation in the context of our daily life.</span></div><div><span style="color: #2b00fe;"> <br />2. In a non-supportive environment, we suffer from the suppression of our transgender nature with psychological pain [confusion, depression, dysphoria, and other distress]. We continue to seek expression via crossdreaming, crossdressing, seeking community, individual therapy, etc.</span></div><div><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><br />3. We work to increase our understanding of ourselves, and validate the legitimacy of our experience.</span></div><div><span style="color: #2b00fe;"> <br />4. We seek integration of our transgender nature into daily life, conditioned by perceived risks and benefits.</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><br />5. We attempt to achieve a stable personal equilibrium by:<br /><br /></span></div><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;"> <span><a name='more'></a></span>a. Affirming our own nature to ourselves privately- in thoughts, feelings, and self talk</span> </div></blockquote><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;"> </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;"> b. Finding workable outlets of expression in our own circumstances, which may or may not be visible to others </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;"> c. Participating in sustaining a supportive community, sharing feelings and transgender expression with others </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;"> d. Achieving a satisfying level of gender transition on a personal level and in society, which encompasses many choices from simply ignoring restrictive gender norms through transitioning gender with HRT,SRS, and legal transition"</span></div></blockquote><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/a-transgender-typology-and-unification-theory-t3063-s20.html#p31578">Thrilledwfrills also presents a list of gender components </a>which are separate, but often interacting. Any and all could be the points of conflict which launch us on the Transgender Journey</p><p>Thrilledwfrills continues:</p><p><span style="color: #2b00fe;">"Every child is classified at birth into one of two genders, and then continuously taught, nudged, prodded, and constrained to fit as closely as possible the expectations for that gender in their social network. Multiple times a day everyone has to make contextual calculations to optimize their sense of safety and well being, to fit in, to meet expectations, etc. Everyone has the challenge of expressing themselves authentically within the flexibility perceived in gender performance standards.</span></p><p><span style="color: #2b00fe;">We classify ourselves as 'transgender' when we have substantial conflict with the norms and want to cross over the norm boundaries so that we can express ourselves within the parameters allowed for the other gender. We are a minority, and will feel minority stress as a result. We will not be readily accepted when expressing our sense of our gender, because it is different from what is expected. We will make the Transgender Journey. Those around us will apply 'corrective' enforcement- counseling, shaming, threats of ostracism, hostile workplace actions, etc. to bring us back in to conformance. We will keep seeking improved acceptance and opportunity to participate in the activities of daily life, behaving and appearing in ways that feel genuine to us."</span></p>You can read the whole thread here: <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/a-transgender-typology-and-unification-theory-t3063.html">A Transgender Typology and Unification Theory</a></div>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-45394187031009453642021-02-26T00:23:00.003-08:002021-02-26T00:23:58.382-08:00Millions of Dead Genders: A MOGAI Retrospective<p> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-MOeySzEoKXA/YDivGWbElzI/AAAAAAAAHbY/45KNcH5v6zoO1zhrNPDixF9_lweaEhQgwCLcBGAsYHQ/s1123/Skjermbilde%2B2021-02-26%2Bkl.%2B09.19.18.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="589" data-original-width="1123" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-MOeySzEoKXA/YDivGWbElzI/AAAAAAAAHbY/45KNcH5v6zoO1zhrNPDixF9_lweaEhQgwCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/Skjermbilde%2B2021-02-26%2Bkl.%2B09.19.18.png" width="550" /></a></p><p>Lily Alexandre has made a video about the Tumblr MOGAI generation and their exploration of a myriad of genders and gender expressions. What happened to them and their enemies, the transmedicalist separatists?</p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/millions-of-dead-genders-t3422.html">Discussion over at Crossdream Life.</a></p><p></p><iframe allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/DoZFZto6Wqg" width="560"></iframe>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-63338063082472966672021-02-16T05:48:00.003-08:002021-02-17T04:26:57.562-08:00All you need to know about "autogynephilia"<p><b></b></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><b><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-C7t6TYM0cHI/YCvL7JXR11I/AAAAAAAAHac/LezoziRs0EspDPDaZkJcowrLsODbCipWgCLcBGAsYHQ/s724/GettyImages-657840124-2.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="483" data-original-width="724" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-C7t6TYM0cHI/YCvL7JXR11I/AAAAAAAAHac/LezoziRs0EspDPDaZkJcowrLsODbCipWgCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/GettyImages-657840124-2.jpg" width="550" /></a></b></div><b><br /> </b><b>"Autogynephilia" has been defined as "a male's propensity to be sexually aroused by the thought of himself as a female." </b><p></p><p>Note the male pronouns. This is a theory that is actively used in attacks against transgender women. Trans-exclusionary "radical feminists" love the theory, for that very reason.</p><p>The AGP theory states that only straight (androphilic) "men" have such fantasies. Women do not. Gay men and straight trans women do not.</p><p>In medical circles the theory does not have much traction as far as understanding transgender women is concerned. The American psychiatric manual, the DSM-5 argues that cross-gender erotic fantasies (also known as crossdreaming or "female/male embodiment fantasies") might simply be an expression of gender variance. The international health manual, the ICD-11, has no references to "autogynephilia", "transvestic fetishism" or any other related terms whatsoever. </p><p>Moreover, both manuals underline that being trans is not a mental illness. The "autogynephilia" theory, however, classifies such fantasies as a "paraphilia" (sexual perversion). </p><p>There are many scientific studies that document that the basic premises of the theory is wrong, and trans people have for the last 30 years or so argued strongly that it does not fit their experience of the world. For instance: There are gay men and androphilic trans women who have such fantasies, as well as many people assigned female at birth.</p><p>So does this mean that the theory is dead? Well, nearly. A few MTF feminization enthusiasts, often people who do think of themselves as any shade of transgender, seem to gravitate towards it. To them it may look like it is the only alternative concept that describes their reality. It isn't.</p><p>Others seem to see the existence of crossdreaming or cross-gender arousal as proof of "autogynephilia" being a real thing. In other words: They think that since some people use the term "autogynephilia" to describe feminine embodiment fantasies, that must means that the AGP <i>explanation</i> for such fantasies (an "erotic target location error") is true. This is what we can call "a logical target location error."</p><p>There are other and more reasonable explanations for why such fantasies appear.</p><p>We have gather some essential articles on "autogynephilia" and the "autogynephilia theory" that can help you understand what the debate is all about, and what may really explain why some people have erotic cross-gender fantasies.</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><a href="http://www.crossdreamers.com/2014/07/the-autogynephilia-theory-again.html">The Autogynephilia Theory Again... </a></li><li><a href="https://juliaserano.medium.com/autogynephilia-ad-hoc-hypotheses-and-handwaving-cecca4f6563d">Autogynephilia, Ad Hoc Hypotheses, and Handwaving</a></li><li><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2018/12/what-sexual-fantasies-of-non.html">What the sexual fantasies of non-transgender people tell us about the dreams of those who are trans</a></li><li><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2019/02/new-research-shows-that-gender-variance.html">New research shows that gender variance does not follow sexual orientation</a></li><li><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2019/05/on-women-who-have-sexual-fantasies.html">On women who have sexual fantasies about being men</a></li><li><a href="https://novagirl.net/if-youre-still-arguing-about-autogynephilia-you-dont-understand-it/">If you’re still arguing about autogynephilia … you don’t understand it!</a></li><li><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2019/06/when-those-assigned-female-dream-about.html">When women dream about being men</a></li><li><a href="http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2015/05/reconceptualizing-autogynephilia-as_26.html">Reconceptualizing “Autogynephilia” as Female/Feminine Embodiment Fantasies (FEFs)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/2020/05/the-autogynephilia-theory-debunked-by.html">The Autogynephilia Theory Debunked by New German Study</a></li><li><a href="http://www.genderpsychology.org/autogynephilia/">Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Autogynephilia</a></li><li><a href="https://zagria.blogspot.com/2009/03/what-is-autogynephilia.html#.YCvJwIgnjzc">What is Autogynephilia?</a></li><li><a href="https://medium.com/the-establishment/why-are-trans-women-penalized-for-body-fantasies-everyone-has-44d238d55431">"Why Are Trans Women Penalized For Body Fantasies Everyone Has?"</a> </li><li><a href="http://www.juliaserano.com/av/Serano-AutogynephiliaEmbodiment.pdf">Autogynephilia: A Scientific Review, Feminist Analysis, and Alternative ‘Embodiment Fantasies’ Model.</a></li><li><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/viewtopic.php?p=33850#p33850">Spotlight on some classic anti-AGP resources.</a></li></ul><p></p><p><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.com/p/the-autogynephilia-debate-resources.html"><i>More resources from the autogynephilia debate.</i></a></p><p><i>Photo: Aleksandar Georgiev</i></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-90019638617041859222021-02-11T02:36:00.006-08:002021-02-11T02:38:36.963-08:00Transgender lesbian woman tears gender stereotypes apart in viral video<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-wjiAtaXEov0/YCUIanRzU-I/AAAAAAAAHZk/XbOvEy8xVQIg2OmKPqqKiPHj9DTnLlDCgCLcBGAsYHQ/s790/eva-fashion-icon-butch.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="530" data-original-width="790" height="269" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-wjiAtaXEov0/YCUIanRzU-I/AAAAAAAAHZk/XbOvEy8xVQIg2OmKPqqKiPHj9DTnLlDCgCLcBGAsYHQ/w400-h269/eva-fashion-icon-butch.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p>Sometimes posts over at the Crossdreamer tumblr site goes viral, and it is most often when it presents the creative input from some really clever gender variant people. This time it was a video by Eva AKA <a href="https://twitter.com/ayyy_vuh/status/1351663694879584261?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed%7Ctwterm%5E1351663694879584261%7Ctwgr%5E%7Ctwcon%5Es1_&ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lgbtqnation.com%2F2021%2F02%2Ftrans-lesbian-destroys-transphobic-trope-viral-video%2F">@ayyy_vuh over at twitter.</a></p><p>Eva manages to give a real life example of a lesbian trans woman who are undeniable both lesbian, butch and a woman. And with humor!</p><p><a href="https://trans-express.lgbt/post/642127695347597312/transgender-lesbian-woman-tears-gender-stereotypes">Read the post here!</a> At the moment it has more than 54,000 likes and reblogs.</p>
<blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p dir="ltr" lang="en">"WeArInG a DrEsS dOeSn'T mAkE yOu A wOmAn!!!" <a href="https://t.co/PcP13YP8Nv">pic.twitter.com/PcP13YP8Nv</a></p>— Eva ''Tired Gay Girlfriend'' (@ayyy_vuh) <a href="https://twitter.com/ayyy_vuh/status/1351663694879584261?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 19, 2021</a></blockquote> <script async="" charset="utf-8" src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js"></script>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-61390759999267262452021-02-08T02:52:00.001-08:002021-02-08T02:52:36.444-08:00Do people have night dreams about being "another" gender?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-0GZb-BgwGfY/YCEXluGCpwI/AAAAAAAAHZA/IwXxVlyrPc4LeMhB1zKcLYp1AzefjuZDQCLcBGAsYHQ/s772/GettyImages-1189705901.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="453" data-original-width="772" height="235" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-0GZb-BgwGfY/YCEXluGCpwI/AAAAAAAAHZA/IwXxVlyrPc4LeMhB1zKcLYp1AzefjuZDQCLcBGAsYHQ/w400-h235/GettyImages-1189705901.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p>Crossdreaming refers mostly to conscious, day time, cross-gender fantasies, expressions or identities. But do some people dream about being their target gender at night?</p><p>Yes, that happens, members of the Crossdream Life forum report. </p><p>Go to: <a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/had-an-actual-crossdreaming-themed-dream-last-nigh-t1767.html">"Had an actual crossdreaming-themed dream last night."</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-4953668217560875202020-12-09T01:03:00.005-08:002021-04-07T04:53:58.129-07:00Was Ernest Hemingway Transgender?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fb7lkonNPX0/X9CSBvth7KI/AAAAAAAAHUM/T3eY_au5YAA8VdRXuRLK4JLLf4wpXismACLcBGAsYHQ/s881/1455.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="881" data-original-width="700" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fb7lkonNPX0/X9CSBvth7KI/AAAAAAAAHUM/T3eY_au5YAA8VdRXuRLK4JLLf4wpXismACLcBGAsYHQ/s320/1455.jpg" /></a></div><div><b>There is clear evidence that Ernest Hemingway was some shade of transgender.</b></div><div><br /></div>The American author and Nobel prize winner Ernest Hemingway has been seen as the epitome of hyper-masculinity, with his stories about matadors, hunting and war. <p></p><p>Indeed, he did play the role of the manly man, also in his private and public lives, although it turns out that he and some of his female friends explored another side of sex and gender.</p><p>His male assigned child came out as a transgender woman, but few know that Ernest himself might have been equally transgender. </p><p>His unfinished novel, <i>The Garden of Eden</i>, represents a brave exploration of his own gender variance and his own crossdreaming.</p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/jemimah-hemingway-and-more-t3278-s10.html#p32769">More about Ernest Hemingway's transgender side over at CDL.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.crossdreamers.org/2020/12/was-ernest-hemingway-transgender.html"><b>UPDATE: Here's a new article on Ernest Hemingway's transgender nature.</b></a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-65741114361054753762020-12-06T04:42:00.004-08:002020-12-06T04:42:35.930-08:00Eddie Izzard on being transgender and coming out<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TuxCwjjNKhk/X8zRaF2dCaI/AAAAAAAAHTo/5_xCwWxG9uwFKrNif233KlYlURKJEHBSQCLcBGAsYHQ/s640/tumblr_d345103aa270ae2728557c64b1260ab4_b0f37c64_640.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="450" data-original-width="640" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TuxCwjjNKhk/X8zRaF2dCaI/AAAAAAAAHTo/5_xCwWxG9uwFKrNif233KlYlURKJEHBSQCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/tumblr_d345103aa270ae2728557c64b1260ab4_b0f37c64_640.png" width="550" /></a></div><br /> Eddie Izzard is a world famous comedian, actor and crossdreamer. In a new video he (or she, depending on mode) talks about being gender fluid and a lesbian transgender person, about coming and how to make our world a better place.<p><a href="https://trans-express.lgbt/post/636691821302595584/eddie-izzard-on-being-transgender-and-coming-out">Trans Express has more about Eddie Izzard, about running marathons and wearing heels.</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-47941400196469298622020-12-03T03:50:00.000-08:002020-12-03T03:50:16.649-08:00"When do I reveal my gender variance to a girl I'm dating?"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-q5R0lrQMzrc/X8jQuQUkobI/AAAAAAAAHTI/poLJzqD_zyYhJfocMqRvEKoXP6Gf_ttRgCLcBGAsYHQ/s508/GettyImages-1185964544.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="339" data-original-width="508" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-q5R0lrQMzrc/X8jQuQUkobI/AAAAAAAAHTI/poLJzqD_zyYhJfocMqRvEKoXP6Gf_ttRgCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/GettyImages-1185964544.jpg" /></a></div><p>Over at r/crossdreaming an MTF crossdreamer asks about when to tell a potential girl friend about their gender variance. </p><p></p><blockquote>"Any thoughts on what an appropriate point in the relationship might be to talk about this and how to approach the subject? Any feedback helps!"</blockquote><p></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/crossdreaming/comments/k52eko/when_do_i_reveal_this_to_a_girl_im_dating/">More over at reddit.</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-34147036939993689862020-11-20T02:37:00.002-08:002020-11-20T02:37:40.865-08:00Yul Brynner as a Woman<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-BR4wunY_YKQ/X7ecCcrtSQI/AAAAAAAAHSc/mV8FF1dK3xYD4TufN9aUzwOxwHNmYgWnwCLcBGAsYHQ/image.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="281" data-original-width="500" src="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-BR4wunY_YKQ/X7ecCcrtSQI/AAAAAAAAHSc/mV8FF1dK3xYD4TufN9aUzwOxwHNmYgWnwCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/image.png" /></a></div><br /> The sexy Hollywood star Yul Brynner once played the role of a female cabaret singer, a very attractive one, in fact. <p></p><p>The photo is of Yul Brynner (to the left) and Roman Polanski.</p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/yul-brynner-as-a-cabaret-singer-in-the-peter-selle-t3256.html#p32539">More over at Crossdream Life (including clip from the movie.</a>)</p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-59020489919757298112020-11-19T01:38:00.004-08:002020-11-19T01:42:11.527-08:00The six stages of gender denial<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9aZa_DVZ2qk/X7Y6b0I4U2I/AAAAAAAAHSM/iDso8zYkQ5YhZOkHhCapLM3DWrrA0HHqgCLcBGAsYHQ/s700/GettyImages-904427444-2.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="498" data-original-width="700" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9aZa_DVZ2qk/X7Y6b0I4U2I/AAAAAAAAHSM/iDso8zYkQ5YhZOkHhCapLM3DWrrA0HHqgCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/GettyImages-904427444-2.jpg" width="550" /></a></div><br /><div><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/i-finally-joined-t3255.html">Based on a post by Samantha over at CDL: The six stages of trans denial:</a></div><div><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>"I am comfortably cis."</li><li>“I sometimes like presenting as female - it's weird, I don't know why I do it, but that's it” </li><li>“I would actually do this all the time if I could”</li><li>“I know I would rather be female, but I am not trans”</li><li>“I think I am trans and I should probably do something about it”</li><li>“I AM trans and I AM going to do something about it”</li></ol>If you use trans as an umbrella term for all shades of gender variance, these stages of yours may not fit all, but it sure makes sense to many!</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/i-finally-joined-t3255.html">More here!</a></div>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-48577455427434775512020-11-18T01:44:00.002-08:002020-11-18T01:44:03.640-08:00Does anyone know the significance of having a female-typical digit ratio, or is that just pseudoscience?<p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/does-anyone-know-the-significance-of-having-a-fema-t3248.html#p32464"> Andonis Longos asks over at CDL:</a></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-VuxxEarFqqE/X7JKpuEEmNI/AAAAAAAAHRY/u23dnV6lLEM6Spva6XEGNiDNUZMuqNcsQCLcBGAsYHQ/s400/006.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="369" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-VuxxEarFqqE/X7JKpuEEmNI/AAAAAAAAHRY/u23dnV6lLEM6Spva6XEGNiDNUZMuqNcsQCLcBGAsYHQ/s16000/006.jpg" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p>"I had always assumed that everyone had fingers like mine, that the index was always longer than the ring finger, and had no idea that many people (supposedly most men) have fingers of the opposite length. So I then realized that I basically have a "female-typical" finger-length. Since some seem to claim that this corresponds with pre-natal hormones, I was wondering if anyone could comment on this or if it is just pseudoscience."</p><p><a href="https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/crossdreamlife/does-anyone-know-the-significance-of-having-a-fema-t3248.html#p32464">Some answers about finger ratios and being transgender here!</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7176930556894466634.post-57613741451443592792020-11-17T04:07:00.001-08:002020-11-17T04:07:39.446-08:00Harry Styles in a Dress<p> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Dwf4K5_2XVo/X7O8Y4oUNpI/AAAAAAAAHRo/myx66g5y2gg58QPIiHlRtcG2J3VVjyQcQCLcBGAsYHQ/s1292/Image-%25283%2529.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1292" data-original-width="1015" height="640" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Dwf4K5_2XVo/X7O8Y4oUNpI/AAAAAAAAHRo/myx66g5y2gg58QPIiHlRtcG2J3VVjyQcQCLcBGAsYHQ/w502-h640/Image-%25283%2529.png" width="502" /></a></p><p>US Vogue has finally put a man on its cover. It is British actor, model and pop star, Harry Styles in a dress.</p><p><a href="https://trans-express.lgbt/post/635032772844634112/vogue-finally-puts-a-man-on-its-cover-and-harry">Trans Express has more about Harry Styles' gender queer approach to life.</a></p>Jack Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.com